Sunday, 02 October

The value of family bonding

Feature Article
Family bonding

We live in a chaotic world where it’s difficult to understand what is “normal”. 

Each and everyone of us is a part of the big chaos. And what you do today, has an effect on tomorrow. It can be tough to say, exactly what kind of effect. And you usually can’t see how everything fits together. But the effects of your actions, are always there, somewhere in the chaos and someone is bound to pay a price or suffer from the effects. Let us start from our home.

How well do we bond with our immediate family? Our spouse? Children? Do we even have a family bonding time?

Family bonding time is time the family spends together meaningfully. This is a designated time your family plans to interact with each other over a group of activities, just sit and talk or have a fun project like going on holiday.

Family members learn how to listen and work together. Children learn how to behave in society by watching their parents interact with each other. Family bonding times are a great way to model expected behaviours inside the family circle and with others in the community.

Modelling expected behaviours is also a great way for the parents in the family to learn how to communicate to each other as well.

Promising your personal time at least two days out of the week will help members in your family gain a sense of self-worth.

Children that do not have a sense of family values are more likely to be influenced by friends that do not necessarily have their best interests at heart.

Most Parents often admit frustration when it comes to communication.

Their children are not open, do not listen or lack understanding between talking and listening.  Bonding time can help eliminate some of the frustration.  Parents can use this time to relate their experiences to their children just by active interactions. 

As important as it is to impart wisdom, it is just as important to be an active listener as well. While everyone is together, sometimes it’s just as important to redirect attention towards your family and build a lasting trust plus openness.

Making a habit of displaying interest in the well-being of your spouse and children will make them more likely to consult family members when experiencing problems.

Children will find out you can get more done with good behaviour and not by acting out. Adults will find authority is followed more willingly when a child wants to do their best for them.

Children will use less talking back as their view of their family unit improves.

Effective communication via family Bonding is very healthy for every family.

Let’s not wait till things get out of hand before trying to repair.

When the foundation of a house is firm and secure, no wind, flood or challenges can bring it down.

Let’s build our home (family) on a solid foundation.


Source: Dr Annie Gaisie